In marriage if only one person is “winning” then really no one is “winning.” Marriage is intended to be the ultimate win/win relationship. If you currently feel that your spouse is “winning” and you are losing, I want to encourage you to take a counter intuitive approach. Instead of demanding better or equal treatment, try serving your spouse even more. In my own marriage I have noticed through the years that when I feel like Emily is “winning” and I am “losing” that my perspective can be, and actually is quite often, wrong. In fact, I have found that the more I serve Emily the better equipped/able she is to serve me. Try it – instead of demanding better treatment, serve your spouse to a greater level.

Who is “winning” in your marriage?