(This post was written by Chuck Carringer, Pastor of Family Ministries)

As we close out 2010, this is a great time for each of us to look back (evaluate 2010) and look ahead (set some goals for 2011). There are many areas (faith, family, fitness, finances, professional growth, personal growth, etc.) that merit our attention in this review and goal setting process but I want us to focus on only one – our marriage.

                All of our marriages are unique because the two people involved are unique. Our marriages are at different levels of health; however, none are perfect. My challenge today is simple, what one thing are you willing to do to improve your marriage? Not what 27 things. Let’s start with one. Not what should your spouse do to improve your marriage. What one thing will you commit to do to improve/make your marriage even better? As you read my challenge what was your initial reaction?

• “Yes! I’m in”
• “what’s the use?”
• “he/she is the one who needs to improve our marriage”? 

                Please allow me to encourage you; I have seen God restore marriages where it seemed impossible. Again I ask, what one thing are you willing to do to improve your marriage? Perhaps it’s:

• Model forgiveness
• Give respect to your spouse
• Be thankful for your spouse
• Be willing to compromise
• Offer selfless love
• Provide focused listening

                The above are just a few suggestions and likely something has already come to your mind as you have considered this question.

                During this season of resolutions and dreams for the New Year we often neglect to bring intentional focus to our most important earthly relationship, our marriage. Let’s begin 2011 with a renewed commitment to our marriages.

What one thing are you willing to do to improve your marriage?